Though I agree with most of what you say Tim, I’m going to be perverse and call you out on the headline. These things might be harsh truth to you (and truths, though not harsh to be but I’m British) but they are not absolute truths.
Though I see some medics (who would like to turn is into a race of Frankenstein monsters) give the impression that dying is some kind of personal failure, and some shrinks encouraging people to wallow in grief for years, I think evolution has equipped most of us to deal with the loss of loved ones.
I wouldn’t agree with the advice to stop dreaming (this is the kind of advice self help gurus give,) there’s no harm in dreaming if we keep it under control. What we should guard against is becoming delusional. Let’s guard against being the seventy — five year old guy who turns up on a TV talent show still thinking he can make it as a rock star.
And we are all actors, we have many personas that we can present to the world in different situations. And though we should not pretend to be something we’re not (the biggest danger being that we may start to believe ourselves,) how boring life would be if we were always the same.